Can Evolution Handle This?

February 8, 2007

It looks like Calvin Klein is replacing the Kama Sutra in the hearts of many women. Look at this recent survey reported by Reuters yesterday. It claims that the majority of women prefer new clothes to sex with their partners.

According to the study,

Women on average say they would be willing to give up sex for 15 months for a closet full of new apparel, with 2 percent ready to abstain from sex for three years in exchange for new duds, according to a new survey of about 1,000 women in 10 U.S. cities.

Sixty-one percent of women polled said it would be worse to lose their favorite article of clothing than give up sex for a month.

“Some people say clothes make the man, but the right clothes can even replace him,” fashion designer, said stylist and TV personality Carson Kressley”

Men, apparently we are doing something wrong if a nice pair of Pradas holds more attraction than our bristling abs. I mean, if we had bristling abs. What on earth is Evolution coming to? How will there be the survival of the fittest if the fittest are preferring a fitting to a flirtation? I guess we can assume that the minority of women who prefer sex to clothing may actually be the fittest and therefore they obviously will be the ones to reproduce and carry on the species.

Or it could mean that men need to sharpen their appeal. Just in time for Valentine’s day. Who knew that what she really wanted was a Coach purse more than a coach ride up Blueberry Hill?


  1. probably want the clothes because the sex is either just “sex” or because the relationship is lacking. Either way, new clothes give a boost to the ego, a nice feeling about self, and an image that projects what we want to project. Sex is just sex, doesn’t usually last long enough or satisfy enough to be something one wants to have all the time. Sounds like the relationships are what need work.

  2. Fasting from food or in this case, sex, is always easier to say “yes, I can make that commitment” until the need or craving/desire becomes greater than the commitment. Of course, most women can sustain a fast from sex a lot longer than they can from food, especially chocolate.
    How about new clothes, chocolate and sex?

  3. Oh my gosh, the Kama Sutra? Mike, you are really dating yourself here. The Kama Sutra hasn’t been hot since 1974. There are more up-to-date training materials on sex. Um, at least that’s what I’ve heard.

    Well, my next comments may offend my feminine brethren, but here goes anyway. After all, I’m a long-time married man so sex is not an issue (how can something you don’t get be an issue?) It’s a joke people, lighten up! Really, I’m fine on my wife’s bi-annual plan. Anyhow, the reason many women would prefer clothes to sex is because women really don’t want relationships with a man. Blasphemous you say? No really, women spend and unholy amount of time and effort on their appearance. Why? Because they are designed by God to be alluring. The problem is that women are addicted to the short-lived rush of feeling good about their appearance, but at the same time they never feel quite perfect. “I feel fat and ugly” is a common feminine refrain. As a result, women struggle to get beyond the superficial level of appearance to the deeper levels of intimacy. They can’t let go of that fear of not being perfect, so they keep trying and trying. It’s like obsessive compulsive disorder. Yet they often fret for nothing, especially if they are in a relationship with a mature man. Mature men want to go beyond the superficial. The mature man looks beyond the imperfections of his gal’s body because he wants to be embraced with her soul as well, and sex is the ultimate expression of that embrace.

    Sorry my fashion-first ladies, you are missing out on the fulfillment of what you claim to be all about—which is relationships—for the sake of the superficial. And you claim men are shallow, hah!

    Wake up, it’s not “just sex.”

  4. Poor anonymous #1, Kama Sutra is kickin – and how wrong to post that comment after my mom posted anon #3! (Stop reading Mom, blush) The idea behind it is to be in the moment TOGETHER. Sex has become a selfish one sided thing in many people actions and attitudes. Buying clothes for yourself is selfish, not always wrong, but something done for yourself. My man is very physical and is interested more than I am. We work it out to meet each others needs, not one over the other. The same principal applies to oh so many thing in life and relationships.

  5. Whoops! Swap Anon # 3 and Anon #1!

  6. Well, Anon 3, you really seem hostile- must get rejected alot! Sorry if you are, but if you weren’t so brash, you might get more sex. Try a little romance, and little dating. Your attitude improvement might make you more alluring! Putting that kind of effort into your relationship with your wife might make her change her mind about “bi-annual” sex!

  7. you responders need to read these articles a few times through before you comment.
    He made a valid point in regards to women who beautify themselves but struggle to get beyond the superficial level of appearance to the deeper levels of intimacy. That, my anon friends, is truth.

  8. Yes, women struggle to get to the more intimate relationships, but usually because they can’t get beyond the braggadocio of the guys. Women usually equate sex with intimacy – it is intimacy with their man that they are looking for. Intimacy means not just the physical act of sex, but handholding, talking and listening (on both sides), maybe watching a movie together. A woman needs the build up to, and the tenderness afterward. If they don’t get that, clothes will look like the better option. Having a better relationship (and better sex) is a lot of work, for both the guy and the gal.

    And having read the article through several times, I find that Mike seemed to be looking at the survey he found and maybe just lightly encouraging us all to do something nice for each other, not just on Valentine’s Day, but everyday. But a Valentine would be a nice place to start.

  9. To everyone (those whose names appear here and those who remain faceless)…your comments are entertaining. The so-called “battle of the sexes” just underscores how much men and women are different species. But vive la difference!

    I really do believe that it is up to men to convince women we have more “wearability” than good clothing. After all, if I can’t outperform a pair of Gucci loafers, I am handing in my Man Card.

    Oh no, I let the cat out of the bag….!

  10. So let me see if I understand this right, you’re drawn to “braggadocio guys” and then you’re surprised when they can’t get beyond sex to a deeper intimacy? Sounds like someone needs to call Dr. Laura.

    By the way Anon #4, look up the word satire.

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